Ann and Terry
Terry, I’ve been reading this website FeelingBad? Express your bad feelings, and I like what it says.
Yeah, what’s it about?
It says we all deny many feelings, particularly our bad ones, and that by doing so is not good for us, that it hurts us, and even makes us sick. And it makes a lot of sense. I know I do, and you do -
No I don’t, what are you talking about, I don’t deny any feelings, I’m good at feeling them.
Terry, despite what you say, you do deny them. We all do, I’ve been thinking about it, and we do. And you can’t say you don’t, but you do. I know you do, for example, why won’t you sit down and talk about our relationship with me. You know we’re having some difficulties, and it’s only by talking about them can we hope to resolve them, but every time I ask you, it’s: not now love, later, I’m busy. So why is that?
Because I’m busy every time you ask me.
Okay then, what about now, let’s talk about ‘us’, now.
No, I can’t, I have to go out in a moment.
Out, where too?
I’m meeting Rod and we’re going to the cricket.
You didn’t tell me you were going out.
Oh, didn’t I, sorry about that, it’s not for long, he’s got someone he wants me to meet, it might be good for business.
All right, so when you get back, will you then talk about it?
Yes. Over dinner, how’s that; what say we get a pizza and DVD and we talk about it then.
How are we going to talk about it if you want to watch a video? No Terry, you’re avoiding it as you always do, and unless we do speak about it, we’re not going to last together, and do you want that, do you want us to end?
No Annie of course, I don’t.
Then we’ve got to speak about it, all we feel, about US, YOU and ME, we’ve got to see what’s wrong, why we’re not so happy anymore.
But I’m happy, I love you - have always loved you.
Well if you do, then you’ll want to speak about your bad feelings, because all of this obviously makes you feel bad, and that’s why you keep trying to avoid it. You want to put it off, you don’t want to confront the actual reality in our relationship, that we’re not getting on so well anymore. You do your thing and I do mine and we coast along, but we never really get anywhere, not anymore. So we’ve got to speak about it, so will you or won’t you; and I would really like you to read this website, it’s not big and it’s not too much, even someone with your brain level will be able to understand it.
Gee, thanks very much.
Because Terry, my feeling is, if you don’t want to face the truth of our relationship, then it’s going to fail. And I don’t want it to fail, not yet, I do still like you. And I think we’ve got a good foundation on which we can build. So how about it - will you read what’s on this website about feelings?
Yes, I will.
When?
Oh I don’t know, sometime -
No Terry, this is it I’m afraid, the more I talk about it the stronger I feel, it’s now or never. You are going to read this and see if you like what it says, and if so, join me in trying to stop denying our bad feelings, or it will be the end of us. I will have to find someone else who is prepared to take their feelings more seriously, and who does want to stop denying them.
All right love, I hear what you’re saying. And yes, I guess you are right, I do have to face the truth, you are right that we’re not getting on as well as we used to, but I do still want to be with you, to share my life with you. So all right, I’ll do it now, Rod is always late anyway. So what’s it’s address and I’ll read it.
Terry, I’ve been reading this website FeelingBad? Express your bad feelings, and I like what it says.
Yeah, what’s it about?
It says we all deny many feelings, particularly our bad ones, and that by doing so is not good for us, that it hurts us, and even makes us sick. And it makes a lot of sense. I know I do, and you do -
No I don’t, what are you talking about, I don’t deny any feelings, I’m good at feeling them.
Terry, despite what you say, you do deny them. We all do, I’ve been thinking about it, and we do. And you can’t say you don’t, but you do. I know you do, for example, why won’t you sit down and talk about our relationship with me. You know we’re having some difficulties, and it’s only by talking about them can we hope to resolve them, but every time I ask you, it’s: not now love, later, I’m busy. So why is that?
Because I’m busy every time you ask me.
Okay then, what about now, let’s talk about ‘us’, now.
No, I can’t, I have to go out in a moment.
Out, where too?
I’m meeting Rod and we’re going to the cricket.
You didn’t tell me you were going out.
Oh, didn’t I, sorry about that, it’s not for long, he’s got someone he wants me to meet, it might be good for business.
All right, so when you get back, will you then talk about it?
Yes. Over dinner, how’s that; what say we get a pizza and DVD and we talk about it then.
How are we going to talk about it if you want to watch a video? No Terry, you’re avoiding it as you always do, and unless we do speak about it, we’re not going to last together, and do you want that, do you want us to end?
No Annie of course, I don’t.
Then we’ve got to speak about it, all we feel, about US, YOU and ME, we’ve got to see what’s wrong, why we’re not so happy anymore.
But I’m happy, I love you - have always loved you.
Well if you do, then you’ll want to speak about your bad feelings, because all of this obviously makes you feel bad, and that’s why you keep trying to avoid it. You want to put it off, you don’t want to confront the actual reality in our relationship, that we’re not getting on so well anymore. You do your thing and I do mine and we coast along, but we never really get anywhere, not anymore. So we’ve got to speak about it, so will you or won’t you; and I would really like you to read this website, it’s not big and it’s not too much, even someone with your brain level will be able to understand it.
Gee, thanks very much.
Because Terry, my feeling is, if you don’t want to face the truth of our relationship, then it’s going to fail. And I don’t want it to fail, not yet, I do still like you. And I think we’ve got a good foundation on which we can build. So how about it - will you read what’s on this website about feelings?
Yes, I will.
When?
Oh I don’t know, sometime -
No Terry, this is it I’m afraid, the more I talk about it the stronger I feel, it’s now or never. You are going to read this and see if you like what it says, and if so, join me in trying to stop denying our bad feelings, or it will be the end of us. I will have to find someone else who is prepared to take their feelings more seriously, and who does want to stop denying them.
All right love, I hear what you’re saying. And yes, I guess you are right, I do have to face the truth, you are right that we’re not getting on as well as we used to, but I do still want to be with you, to share my life with you. So all right, I’ll do it now, Rod is always late anyway. So what’s it’s address and I’ll read it.